Hello lovely people!
I hope you all have been up to so many amazing things lately. I have been keeping pretty busy lately which has been a blessing and a curse. I love to keep busy and have my mind occupied, but sometimes I run into the problem of not focusing on myself. I have always preached self-love and being able to focus on yourself, but I realized that I haven’t been completely honest about my personal journey with learning to love myself fully. So today, I want to be fully one hundred percent honest about my life and how far I have come on my journey to loving myself!
I have never been someone who has been fully comfortable with the way I am. I was always looking for something to pick on about myself and I always compared (sometimes still do) myself to others. It truly messed with my confidence and self-worth. I dated guys who didn’t seem to give a damn about me and always found a way to tear me down piece by piece. After years of just pushing my own feelings aside, I became fed up and started to take care of my own wellbeing for a change. Part of this change came from my current love, Nick, who has really become a strong positive force for my confidence. Now, ladies, I’m not saying that finding a guy is the only solution for finding true self-happiness, it has taken me years (and is still currently happening) to really work on finding inner peace with who I am and Nick just happened to be a part of that journey for me. Everyone’s journey is different and nothing happens overnight. I want to share some pieces of advice that I try to stick by on the daily.
Look honestly at your weaknesses
Most of us don’t like to look at our weaknesses because we want to believe that nothing needs to be fixed (guilty). I have always struggled to look deep into my insecurities and work to release my hostility towards them. Take it from me, release them. Finding those insecurities and letting them go can be so freeing. I still struggle with my insecurities every day but once you learn how to handle them, then you can move forward with your self-love journey!
Deal with your old wounds
Our past wounds have a way of sneaking in and controlling our current life. Hurt from family, relationships, friends can have a hold on us and can deter us from meeting our true happiness for ourselves.
Start your day with affirmations (not technology)
This is so important. Technology has become both a positive and negative in our lives. I use my phone almost all the time and sometimes it does more harm than good. My biggest fault was always comparing myself to others and when you do this habit as soon as you wake up, you are already setting the mood for the rest of the day. Starting your day with positive affirmations about yourself automatically puts yourself in a better mindset to continue through the rest of your day!
Focus on the parts of your life that make you truly happy
When I took the time to really focus on myself and focus on the areas of my life that make me happiest, I found my mood towards myself lift so much. When I started writing, it truly gave me more confidence in myself and I such a change in my attitude towards myself and towards others. The same thing happened when I began working out for no one else but myself. When you focus on the parts of your life that bring you joy, you will see a drastic change in how you view yourself!
Accept the things you cannot change & learn to appreciate them
We all have areas in our lives that we would like to be able to change, but when you learn to accept the parts of your life that you may not be able to change, then you can learn to appreciate those small things and move forward with your life. I have lots of little things about myself that I would love to be able to change and even though I am still a work in progress, I am learning to appreciate little things about myself everyday which has made for a happier Hannah!
We are all still works in progress and finding a real love for who you are takes a lot of time (I’m still working through it). But once you look deep into your past and focus on changing your present mindset, then you will learn to find that confidence and love you have been searching for. I know this post may sound overly cheesy, but I believe that all of you are amazing and are capable of finding your true happiness. Enjoy the journey and I can’t wait to talk to you all again soon!
Sending Positive Vibes,