Hello beautiful friends!
I hope you all have been having a great kick-off to your week so far. Things here on the east coast have been looking up a little bit and I am hoping that soon light will shine on Nick and I and we will be where we want to be in life! This weekend brought forth a lot of positivity because my family came to visit, which was SO GREAT since I haven’t seen anyone since the end of August. We spent some great quality time together and it truly pushed my energy in a positive direction. After reflecting on some moments happening in my life, I decided to make a change and stop caring. That’s right, I’m working on not caring about expectations and just let myself take it day by day!
Change up your routine
In any aspect of our lives sometimes we tend to throw everything we have into one basket and then become disappointed when it doesn’t work out. I have been a little guilty of this lately. Ever since before moving here, I had set this expectation in my mind that I would move to this new state and have a position landed in a month, which to be fair was probably not the most realistic expectation, but hey we’re learning. For me, learning to diversify my life has been key in bringing a little more positivity to my everyday routine. Having a variety of activities or hobbies can help you focus your energy in a healthy way, instead of dwelling on a negative aspect. Maybe next time something doesn’t go your way, focus that energy into growing a business you’ve been working on or work it off in the gym. Whatever you need to do to bring yourself back to a positive headspace, will overall help you stop focusing so hard on the expectations you placed for yourself!
We all are creatures of complaining when something doesn’t go our way. Trust me, I’ve been guilty of this lately too. MAKE A MOVE! It’s time that we all stop feeling sorry for ourselves and start focusing on making something else happen. Lately with the job hunting, I have been guilty of sitting and complaining when I didn’t get a position or a job gets put on hold, which was doing nothing for me at the end of the day. If you don’t like the way something is going in your life, then it’s up to you to change it. You can ABSOLUTELY be content with where your life is currently, but you also shouldn’t be afraid to make changes to get your life to where you’d like it to be!
Other people should not be able to dictate how you feel or look at life. Lately, I have been finding it so easy to push the blame onto another circumstance or person whenever something goes array. I’ve been learning to stop this habit because honestly, it’s no one else’s problem but my own. Accept responsibility for your actions and be willing to move forward in a healthy direction!
Don’t waste time on negativity
I found that when I surround myself with negative people, it only makes me have this negative outlook on everything around me. Life’s too short to surround yourself with people who only suck the life out of you instead of working to build you up! This past year I made a promise to not waste my time on people who really don’t put in the same amount of energy into me, and you know what? It’s felt amazing! I think we all have this expectation that we need to surround ourselves with a wide circle of people in order to feel complete with our lives and honestly, it’s more lonely and exhausting that way. Learning to drop any negativity surrounding your life can be so refreshing and lift up your life instead of tearing it down!
Be happy where you are at this moment
It can become SO easy for us to get wrapped up in the future and having everything mapped out for the next 5 years. We have been told for years to have a plan and that can be a hard habit to break. Don’t get me wrong I am a planner and it has been really hard to just go with the flow and enjoy life at this moment. I’ll say it again, life’s too short to dwell on the fact that life may not be perfect at this moment. You may not be where you’d like to be, but you are where you are meant to be at this moment so, enjoy it!
I hope you all have an amazing rest of your week. With all my free time these next few days, I have been working on some new content to share for the rest of this year! I also have some new collaborations in the works and I am so pumped to share some of those new projects. As always, I will be keeping you updated on any life updates for Nick and myself, so be sure to stay tuned!